Parent's Day..Annual Day..Sports Day..Project Day...Grand Parent's Day !!!!

         I remember the happy days before my school parent's day ( of course main reason being there used to be hardly any classes

) , then when my son started school, it was the annual days, their  sun filled sports days, their school project day which ensures parents have enough work ......  and then  from my daughter's play school came the invite for the grandparents day !!!  and I thought ' wow , nice thought !!'.....

My daughter kept saying' Patti schooliku Varva'...non stop and it was evident that her grandmother was happy . The proud feeling or rather the feel good factor of spending the day at her grandchild's school , win a couple of games and comeback with both their hands impressions printed on a card, was lingering for them the whole day . It was for sure a topic of discussion among her sisters on the phone !

I am sure many schools these days have a grandparents day. Have the schools acknowledged what ,we working parents take for granted ? If we rewind 40 years back , with joint families being the norm and mothers were mostly full time home makers , children had a whale of time growing up midst a vibrant crowd. Child care was not the most challenging aspects of life. School holidays , the rain holidays were not 'thing to be taken care of ', because  the kids will be at home when we are in office.

We have traversed a long long  way ( such a long way that now even our parents are active on whatsapp :-) ) ...  the ever shining middle class , globe trotting crowd making foot prints across continents, economic prosperity,'the something to reckin with'  entrepreneurship  .. this evolution is definitely a welcome one and at the same time  the care required by a child remains the same or is even more demanding considering their exposure quotients being high......

GrandParents house is no longer the place we eagerly look forward to during our school holidays. They are no longer the place in 'my native' where we go for festivals.

With both the parents working , maternal and paternal Grand parenting  have taken a new connotation called 'Parenting'. 
This 'Parenting' will be done only within the confines of the cozy relationship , our kids share with their grand parents.
This 'Parenting' will not impose the expectations or rules , that parents impose.
 The scope of this 'Parenting '  is different and will be done by stretching their physical and mental energy permissible by their age.
This 'Parenting' is done grabbing a good deal  of their space and time .
This 'Parenting ' is to be done , as a second cycle.
Finally, this 'Parenting' ensures a peace of mind for the parents.

There in lies the beauty because this 'Parenting ' because its still Grand parenting. The relationship equations in each household between the Parents , Grandparents and children will be unique and  multifaceted .For sure, its different in each house hold as to who takes more ownership and responsibility , but what ever be the case , this is a crucial factor in one's career development. There is  no right or wrong angle to this , as the need for an individual to work is equally important as the care a child requires. How is this balanced is each parent's individual choice , but as a parent if we want our children  to evolve in a particular way then it has to stem from us and not from the 'Parenting' done by Grand Parents.. because at the end of the day Grand parenting is a favor and not a duty - this blog is a small laurel for them.